Today on "Breaking Up With Busy" we're talking about how sometimes "No" is the best answer you can give.
And last week that's what we talked about: boundaries. But sometimes those boundaries are hard to make happen when you struggle to say no.
No is a word we aren't often comfortable with. It's heavy, and final. So here is my tip on saying no with ease.
How to say no with ease:
Sometimes saying no begins by not saying yes. It may sound like the same thing, but it isn't.
It's about giving yourself the space to assess whether or not this project or activity is: a priority, something you have the time for, and something you would like to be involved in.
We are often pressured in the moment to give hard yes or no answers, but it's important to be thoughtful about what you're adding to your schedule, no matter how "minor" it may seem.
Here's an example:
The next time you are asked to be a part of a new project, or take on an extra activity, instead of feeling pressured to say a hard yes or no, you could say "My schedule is currently very full. Let me talk with my family, and let you know."
This allows you that space to do exactly that: look at your schedule, check with your partner, and consider if this project or activity aligns with how you want to spend your time, and/or if it takes away from any other important areas of your life.
Start by not saying yes!
Start by not saying yes and it will lead to: choosing the best yes, and saying no will be easier.
I hope this example helps you think about where you are saying yes and no in your life and gives you some room to consider how to best manage those situations.
You are empowered to choose how you spend your time. You are empowered to say no!
Please let me know how it goes this week to "break up with busy!" Next week we are talking a bit more about how self-care can help lessen the feeling of "busy."
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