Why I am giving up being "good."

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Hi, my friend! I love cozy days and it is especially cozy today because I'm currently drinking a cup of tea and enjoying the light rainfall outside my office window. I adore fall and its beautiful way of easing us into the quiet of winter. I've been reading Lara Casey's book "Cultivate What Matters" and I just read the section about seasons and how they represent the seasons of our lives.

Autumn is a reminder that there is beauty in letting go. This year I'm letting go of old hurts that I've been clinging to because they feel familiar. Growth is hard, and often painful, but so worth the work. Letting go of these old hurts is hard at first but I'm finding so much freedom and release in the letting go.

I'm also letting go of being "good." There is a quote by John Steinbeck: "Now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good." It was made even better by adding this (I'm unsure of the author): "And now that you don't have to be good, you can be free."

This quote has been resonating very deeply within me. I have spent a lot of my life trying to be "good." This manifests in many ways: a good wife, a good teacher, a good person. But what is "good," and how is it measured? Instead of working to be good, I am now working to be free. Free of expectations put on by others. Living my best life by understanding my true desires and intentions to spread love and goodness (different than being "good") through whatever means I have at my fingertips. And today that means is this email. I hope this quote gives you some freedom in your life as well.

Which leads me to my final piece of love and encouragement for you today! Last year about this time I started a letter writing challenge called "Steeped In Gratitude." As a group we sent handwritten notes to our loved ones (and maybe ourselves) to practice gratitude. This year we're doing something a little different. I'm launching another challenge called "Steeped In Encouragement." It's very similar to last years challenge but we'll be working on sending encouragement to our fellow human beings!

I would love for you to be a part of this challenge. We begin on November 1st and I'll send a new prompt each Wednesday from the 1st until the 24th, the day before Thanksgiving. It's an opportunity to refocus as we enter a time of busy-ness and mental clutter. I believe intentionally supporting others through our handwritten notes helps keep us grounded and remind us to be kind to others and ourselves in all of the craziness of this particular season.

Go here: www.steepedinencouragement.com to sign up. The challenge is free and I'll be doing it alongside you!

I hope you join us! And I hope your day is cozy and your tea is hot!

With love & tea,


P.S. "Now that you don't have to be good, you can be free."